What is it with you women. You have a good thing and a good man that treats you good, and you lose it???? I don't get it.
Me and my gf of 3 years have been off and on and she just recently started seeing some skinny white basketball player who thinks he's black, has tints and rims on a toyota camry and swears it's a lexus. She tells me "it's not like i love him or really like him that much" but for some reason she wants to be with him. He is around while I'm not but shcool is almost over, and things will probably change.
The problem that we have is that I am so devoted, so loving and very very protective and caring of her. I would do anything for her at anytime and I guess that might push her away. So now she is with this guy and I really don't think it will last...but what should I do? I mean how do I act. I told her good luck and I'm happy for her but what should I do.
I could start hooking up with her best friend who wants me?
I just want to somehow get through to her that I am not her puppet and maybe relight the spark. I don't know where I really went wrong.
I think you hit the nail on the head in your statement about being so protective of her - sometimes you have to give your girl space. I struggle with this all the time in my marriage. It does push you away if you're not allowed to be able to do things on your own, handle your own problems, be an independent person outside the relationship.
Don't hook up with her best friend out of spite - I wouldn't think this would be the best way to go about things - especially if you would like to get your girl back. Bad idea.
Just get on with your life - be strong and confident in yourself and show her that. Let her know that you miss her and love her - but don't act as if it is ruining your life - don't be pussy whipped!
Be a stong, confident man and you'll be just fine. Sounds like you're better off without her anyways. Hope this helps!
bump for blondy....
just go about doing your own thing Gramby.....keep busy w/ your friends, gym, work etc.....give yourself a little time.....
but really do you really want someone back that will be so flighty and go off w/ the flashiest thing out there?
Flash may be good for a quick thing, but a nice warm cozy blanket will last a liftime....hang in there....I'm sure a girl who needs a nice warm cozy blanket will be around the corner *wink*
*smile*
Cutie
"I love the way you look at me, I love the way you smack my ass, I love the dirty things you do when I take control of you"
The problem that we have is that I am so devoted, so loving and very very protective and caring of her. I would do anything for her at anytime
1. did you ever tell her you love her.
2. maybe she take's you for granted.
3. if she is playing game's, why have her.
Good adivce from the Bolex peeps. Gramby...you got to let this girl go!!! Move on and try to be friends (so you can tap it from time to time). I would not try to get back into a relationship with her, you are in the status of "she can have you anytime she wants" mode. The best thing you can do is hook up with a cutie and trust me your ex will be callin'. I never had a on-and-off again relationship work, besides why do you want her after she is boning some other guy?!?
If you have a bad break-up then I would tap her friend, just expect shit to come out of it...trust me I know!!
007
its your self-esteem man... you can do better than her, you just have to open your eyes and realize it. Instead of moping around over her, occupy yourself with something worthwhile. She obviously needs this time away from you for her own personal reasons. She is doing you a favour, take advantage of it and move on.
Another bump for Blondy!! She put it exactly how it is. You can't hold onto someone that doesn't want to be held! It takes time to get over these things but I would def move on with your life.
Patience
And another bump for blondy! She is absolutely 100% right!
DQ
You aren't being any sort of challenge for her. Where is the fear that she could lose you? Nowhere because your life revolves around her. This little punk with the retarded car challenges her and that is what keeps girls interest. I cringe when I hear guys that act like you then wonder "why did she leave me for that badboy??" First, you have to realize that there are a million other women out there like her, and treat her accordingly(not like shit, but let her know that if she fucks up, there's other waiting to take her place). And grow a spine and some balls and take control(women love a guy who can make snappy decisions) Anyways, that's all I can think of right now, good luck. Above all, act like a man and not a whipped little bitch, or else you'll end up like my friend who has to call his girl every day before he goes to bed so that she knows he's not out cheating on her
You are a complete tool, and a complete disgrace to men. I have never heard of somone as pussy wipped as you. Hang your head in shame until you get some self respect
eddie boy do me a favor, we don't tolerate talk like that here in the female forum.....
it's very uncalled for...and why some people prefer to come and look for help here...rather then in the main forum
PMS
"I love the way you look at me, I love the way you smack my ass, I love the dirty things you do when I take control of you"
You are a complete tool, and a complete disgrace to men. I have never heard of somone as pussy wipped as you. Hang your head in shame until you get some self respect
Hahaha Werd
I would say to definately start banging her friend. Not to spite her, but to show her that you are not going to wait around. It sounds like you may want to get back with her. If you wait around while she bangs this dude for a while, she will assume you will wait while she bangs some other guy a few months down the road.
just move on and do your thing. The same thing happened to my friend last semester and the kid is heartbroken, but in all honesty hes pissing me off. You see, when a guy complains about an ex its understandable at first and i'm very sympathetic. But after a few months, i feel like telling him to shut the fuck up and get a life. His ex is out with other guys and hes sittingin his room sulking and bitching to all his friends..
Its gotten to the point where i dont want to hang out with him anymore. Because of this, which is how i also used to be, i've made a promise to myself to never get like that over another women ever again. If i break up with a girl, ok no biggie, go out with my friends do my own thing...
There are so many girls out there bro, trust me its not worth it. I understand you love this girl, but is she worth ur love if shes dating some ignorant wigger? Move on, if she comes back great, if not, at least u can look back and say u didnt waste the last 6months in a manic depressive state.
I wish u the best, good luck, be strong
You are a complete tool, and a complete disgrace to men. I have never heard of somone as pussy wipped as you. Hang your head in shame until you get some self respect
that almost made me spew up my lunch i was laughing so hard
mainly bc i was pussy whipped at one time...and a complete tool with this past girl...i was all into her, and she took me for granted etc..
now i finally got her out of my life and im learning that im better off without her...
you gotta boot this girl...she will like you more for it...but when she does, you cant go back to pussy whipped mode...you gotta treat her just like she diserves to be treated...like any other girl...just some girl to occupy your time and gratify your sex needs...
all the while your looking for a better more appreciative girl...and when u find her...drop the other one completely...she will hate life as you do now....bc she will realize what she lost...hell she might even go crazy and stalk your ass...BK